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Discussions of domestic violence and sexual assault require emotional maturity and an understanding of the weight that such conversations hold. Oftentimes, participants of these conversations feel detached or disconnected from the subject matter; however, the National Sexual Violence Resource Center reports that 81% of women experience sexual assault within their lifetime. In efforts to comprehend the fact that every person knows a victim of sexual assault, an excerpt from a 1979 issue of Essence, a popular magazine specifically aimed toward Black women, can be analyzed. That is, Joyce White writes in volume 10, issue 2, of Essence, \u201cWhen I asked a social worker friend if she knew of any battered women who would be willing to talk to me about their experiences, without a moment\u2019s hesitation she said, \u2018That shouldn\u2019t be any problem. Ask any of the women you know.\u2019 I was shocked after talking to scores of women I realized the phenomenon was as common as she\u2019d implied, and that it affects all of us\u201d (126). She may not be your sister, your best friend, or your partner, but it should not have to take \u201cshe could be your\u2026\u201d for you to recognize the need to take action to cease the epidemic of domestic violence and sexual assault.<\/p>\n

The prevalence of domestic violence across the nation grew in attention during Second Wave Feminism. In a 1975 issue of Women: A Journal of Liberation, Shelley Messing\u2019s poem \u201cSister-in-law\u201d epitomizes the strains on familial relationships that domestic violence yields.<\/p>\n

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“Sister-in-law” poem by Shelley Messing, featured in Women: A Journal of Liberation vol. 6 no. 2.<\/p><\/div>\n

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This image is from Women: A Journal of Liberation vol. 6 no. 2, and is situated next to the poem titled “Sister-in-law” by Shelley Messing.<\/p><\/div>\n

Since this poem is written by someone who knows a victim of domestic violence and verbal abuse, it clearly exemplifies the notion that victims are closer than they appear. Additionally, the title of the poem implies that the victim is the writer\u2019s sister-in-law, and thus the abuser is the writer\u2019s brother. The most striking lines of this poem are in response to a question of whether or not the writer\u2019s brother physically assaults the writer\u2019s sister-in-law. The lines read, \u201cSilence, as her back is turned \/ and I cannot ask again. \/ Words are too awkward, \/ Faces too revealing\u201d (14-17). These lines demonstrate the complex relationship that exists between someone who is abused and someone who has unintentionally learned of the abuse. The pain, most likely too strong for the sister-in-law to bear, has been unveiled by the writer in an unspoken nature, as the abuse is not explicitly stated. The writer\u2019s expression of her brother\u2019s abuse defies the wishes of her family, which is apparent in the lines that read:<\/p>\n

My mother writes,<\/p>\n

\u2018I feel you have no<\/p>\n

or not enough concern for him\u2026<\/p>\n

after all, he is the sick one.\u2019<\/p>\n

My sister warns,<\/p>\n

\u2018You can\u2019t write a poem about that.\u2019 (Messing 22-27)<\/p>\n

By writing this poem, the writer amplifies the voice of her sister-in-law as a means to illustrate the importance of sharing her story.<\/p>\n

The idea that every person knows a victim of sexual assault or domestic violence has further been confirmed by the Me Too movement, which originated in 2006 and grew in popularity in 2017. The Me Too movement serves as a means for victims of sexual assault to find support within a community that values a discussion of recovery from abuse. The following is a reading of a slam poem that articulates the importance of writing and sharing one\u2019s story of sexual assault:<\/p>\n